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Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Christmas Access Tips......

(re-posting a previous Blog post, on a subject about which we receive many questions...)

With the holidays approaching, many parents are thinking of and planning for Christmas access. Here are some basic tips:

1. Plan and prepare early. Give yourself and the other parent a reasonable opportunity to propose a schedule to each other, discuss it and confirm it. Leave room and time for some negotiation.

2. Always think of your child/children first. This may sound like the most basic of concepts but, surprisingly, it gets lost in so many fights about access over the holidays. This is a special time for kids - yes, it's a special time for you as well but they, and not you, are waiting for presents and the smell of gingerbread. Make the holidays as stress-free for kids as possible - this includes not having to watch parents fight or to hear one parent making disparaging comments about the other.

3. If you plan on travelling with your child/children, advise the other parent as much in advance as possible. Draft, sign and have notarized a detailed Travel Consent so that you are less likely to be turned away at the border when travelling for your holiday. Give the other parent (and include in the Travel Consent) detailed information about your destination, method of travel and contact information.

4. If you and the other parent cannot agree on holiday access, one of you may have to ask the Court to assist. Family Courts are very, very busy before the holidays, precisely because of numerous requests for assistance with access. Try and not be the parent sitting in Court for hours, waiting to be heard by a stranger to your family, a Judge, to make a decision about your children over the holidays. Work with the other parent.

5. There are many different ways of handling the holiday access schedule. For example, you can divide the school holidays in half and alternate those two halves, year to year. Or, you can alternate just Christmas Eve and Christmas morning. Other alternatives are available. Speak to a family law lawyer to assist you and tell you about other choices.

Above all, have a safe and restful holiday season....

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